While college offers countless opportunities to meet new people, students often experience loneliness, especially in such a large university community. Adjusting to a new environment and building new relationships can take time, and families can help by recognizing those feelings as a normal part of the college experience.
Start Small.
It is important for students to know that feeling disconnected at times does not mean they are doing college “wrong” or that they do not belong. Meaningful connections often develop through small interactions, shared experiences, campus involvement, and consistent engagement with their communities. With patience and persistence, students can build relationships that support their wellbeing and sense of belonging.
Reach out.
It can be difficult for families to hear that their student is feeling lonely, particularly when they hoped college would immediately provide a strong social network. Recognizing that loneliness is a normal part of adjustment can help families respond with empathy rather than urgency. To better understand your student’s experience, ask questions such as:
“Who have you enjoyed getting to know so far?”
“What spaces or activities make you feel most comfortable?”
“What kinds of connections are you hoping to build this semester?”
When students share feelings of loneliness, acknowledge that relationship-building takes time and avoid comparing their experience to your own or to others’. Encourage them to take small social risks, remain involved in activities that interest them, and stay open to new opportunities for connection. Most importantly, remind them that many students are navigating similar feelings and that belonging often develops gradually rather than all at once.