The holidays usually mean a change in routine and community. For students, returning home or spending time away from campus can be exciting, comforting, stressful, or a combination of many emotions. At the same time, families may also be adjusting to changes in roles, schedules, and family dynamics as students continue to grow and become more independent. Understanding that the holidays can bring both joy and challenges can help families create a more supportive and flexible environment during this time of year. Consider asking:
“How are you feeling about the holidays this year?”
“What would help this break feel restful or meaningful for you?”
“Are there any expectations or plans you’d like to talk through together?”
“How can we support each other during the break?”
Families can support students by recognizing that holiday experiences may not always match expectations and that flexibility can be an important part of well-being. When students share feelings of stress, disappointment, sadness, or uncertainty, acknowledge those emotions without judgment and create space for open conversation. Additionally, identify holiday stressors and plan to manage them; with preparation and positivity, your family can find joy in the season.
Encourage realistic expectations, healthy boundaries, and balance between social commitments and downtime. Families can also help students maintain healthy habits such as sleep, movement, nourishment, and connection while remembering that rest and self-compassion are valuable during busy seasons.
The holidays can also be an opportunity to strengthen relationships by practicing empathy, prioritizing meaningful connection, and respecting differing perspectives. Encouraging students to ask for help when they need it, stay connected to supportive people, and make time for activities that bring joy and restoration can help them navigate the season with greater resilience and well-being.